Tips on Supporting an Expecting or New Mother on Mother’s Day
Motherhood– an individualized journey consisting of love, commitment, friendship, fear, frustration, worry, and laughs. As a first-time expecting mother, at least those are some things I anticipate feeling throughout this journey of motherhood I’ve embarked on. However, If there is one thing that my pregnancy has taught me, it is that each pregnancy, child, and mother is completely unique and incomparable. With mother’s day coming around the corner, I have been reflecting on what it is to be a mother more than I ever have before.
If you close your eyes and picture a mother, what do you see? Do you see a woman with three energetic kids in the backseat? A pregnant woman holding her round belly? An elderly woman with her adult children sitting around her? Or maybe you see a woman just standing alone?
I’d like to make a point to acknowledge all mothers. This includes the mom who suffered a devastating miscarriage, the foster mom trying to make the child in her home feel loved and secure, the mother who is living apart from her children to make ends meet, the mother who is tired and sleep-deprived from waking up for around-the-clock feedings, and many many more.
With all of this being said, I’d like to encourage you to be sensitive to each woman’s situation and to offer words of encouragement and compassion to those who share their experiences with you, and to those who don’t. Don’t assume and minimize another’s situation. We all have different experiences and histories. Try to keep an open mind, and show others signs of respect and love, because you never know who really needs it right now.
Lastly, as I feel it is important to celebrate ALL mother’s on this mother’s day (and every day), I’d like to share some insight on how one could support an expecting mother or new mother. Entering the start of motherhood is a time when we don’t know what to expect, regardless of how many books we read or professionals we consult with, it can cause one a lot of anxiety and worry and take time to build confidence and understanding.
If you know an expecting mom or new mom, trying to take her mind off her stressors and helping her experience fun and laughter is awe-inspiring. Please find some tips and fun activities/gifts you may want to give a try below:
- Don’t offer unsolicited advice. This can be hard, but we don’t want to put someone into an info-overload state or have them second-guessing their methods of doing things if it’s been working for them
- Censor or avoid sharing sad or scary stories involving birth or babies
- Don’t dismiss an expecting or new mother’s worries. Listen and try to stay positive. Remember, we want to stay focused on probability, not possibility
- Ask what you can help her with and then ask again
Gifts & Activities:
The intention should be to get something just for her. She and others are probably focused on getting things for the baby. Getting something just for her sends the message that she isn’t forgotten and she is valued. Here are some of my favorites:
- Positive Affirmation Cards
- Mindfulness or self-care Journal
- Anything cozy (fuzzy socks, slippers, robes, pajamas, blankets)
- A trip to a spa or some skincare products for a spa day at home
- A trip to the nail salon for a pedicure because her feet are probably hard to reach right now
- Her favorite candy and popcorn for a movie night at home
- A trip to her favorite restaurant or takeout
Hoping that these tips were helpful. Best wishes for a wonderful Mother’s Day Celebration!
If you know an expecting mom who is struggling with feeling anxious or overwhelmed, give us a call today.
Written by Samantha Margaritis
From Samantha's bio...
Samantha approaches each individual she works with respect, patience and understanding. Her objective is to meet each individual child/teen where they are, and implement an individualized path of treatment that facilitates emotional and behavioral growth. Her areas of interest include treatment for anxiety disorders, obsessive-compulsive and related disorders, depressive disorders, and adjustment disorders in children and teens.