6 Solid Strategies for a Deeper Connection with Your Spouse

By Monica Arroyo

Every marriage has its rough spots. No relationship is perfect. People often put pressure on each other to live up to ideal standards of what a partner should be. But sometimes, life just gets in the way. It doesn’t mean that your spouse does not love you anymore. It just means that you will have to put in a little more effort if you want to feel the spark again.

Luckily, there are plenty of ways that you and your spouse can work to get those butterflies back. Here are a few fun suggestions to help your marriage reach new heights.

1. Weekly Rituals

Maybe you both talk about how much you would love to schedule a regular date night, but you always put it on the back burner. Or maybe you wish you could have morning coffee with your spouse each day. No matter which ritual is on your mind, sticking to a new routine can help you and your spouse spend a lot more time together. Make a plan and stick to it!

2. Turn Off Your Phones

Too many couples are glued to their phones at dinnertime. Some even stay up late scrolling on social media while in bed with each other. This is not helping your relationship grow. In fact, it could actually be dragging you further apart. Too much screen time can be a serious strain on your marriage. It’s time to turn off your phones and spend more time together without a screen in between you.

3. More Physical Affection

Physical touch is actually a love language. But many of us neglect it when it comes to our relationships. If you are emotionally stressed about your marriage, you might not be very physically affectionate towards your spouse. Make it a point to be a little more physically affectionate. You might realize just how much you miss it, and how those hugs and kisses benefit your relationship.

4. Leave Your Comfort Zone

Have you and your spouse ever discussed the possibility of traveling somewhere new? What about taking a class together to learn about a new subject? Sometimes, doing something to get out of your comfort zone together is the best way to feel closer to your spouse. You will have to rely on each other a little more than usual, which can work wonders for your romantic connection! You may find that you are more attracted to your spouse than ever before.

5. Surprise Each Other

Could you pick up your spouse’s coffee order and surprise them at work? What about bringing them home a bouquet of flowers, just because? You could even leave your spouse love notes to brighten their day. Surprises could be just what you need to bring that spark back to life. When you’re having a bad day, there is nothing better than coming home to a pleasant surprise from your spouse. It can turn your whole day around in a minute.

6. Shared Goals

Do you and your spouse have a dream that you have always hoped to bring to life? Now is the time to start working on it. Working on a shared goal can completely change your relationship for the better. You might see a whole new side of your spouse come out as you work side by side to make your dream a reality.

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